Many people get tempted to jump on the desired goal due to an emotional bust that’s not sustainable. As per the research, 77% of participants had maintained their resolutions; the number decreased to 55% after one month, 43% after three months, 40% after six months, and 19% at the two-year follow-up.
What do you think is the reason?
Last week, I was in a coaching conversation with a friend of mine on her weight loss challenge. She has this deep desire to look fit for years. Every time she tried to execute her goal, she failed and stumbled into an endless wish with frustration.
During our coaching conversation, she urged to register for a personal trainer and a diet coach. It was the new hope that was keeping her motivated to sign-up for a weight loss journey. But I requested her not to take any action until she had a definite purpose and clarity. The problem was not her enthusiasm to achieve, but it was the blur of purpose in her mind.
It’s difficult to stop people during the high motivation wave period, and it’s the trap many people fall into. They rush to action due to an adrenaline hormone bust. But these emotional impulses won’t last long. And before it dies, they need to find a definite purpose.
You will observe a similar kick while watching any motivational video or someone’s achievement. All motivational gurus know this tactic of selling their products or services. They will show you the extraordinary success stories and make you pull your credit card. This is one way to get your instant commitment, but this emotional engagement won’t long last.
What can you do?
Think on a macro level. Look at the big picture of your aim and ask yourself:
- What’s my top priority now?
- What’s the definite purpose of my aim?
- What are the benefits I’ll get?
These questions will trigger deep thoughts. This will give you mental clarity and intent behind your goal. Sometimes the answers may look obvious to you, but don’t believe what you are thinking is always true. Validate your assumptions and relook at things from a fresh perspective.
While doing this mental exercise don’t be in a rush. It’s a self-discovery exercise and may take time. If you are not satisfied with your answers, do an exercise again after a long break. During this period you can get relaxed, play music or guitar, anything that is natural to you. Once you are back with zero thinking mind, ask yourself again until you see a striking reason for your goal. And that will be your AHA moment. Once you have clarity and a definite purpose, move on with a bang.
Final Thoughts
Your goal will show you the destination, but a purpose will supply you with constant power to reach there.
After a powerful start, you need periodic fueling to sustain. You need to review your goal, purpose, and a plan to execute. Think of it like an eco-system that you require to build till the end.
Also have a discovery mind that is ready to answer whatever you ask yourself. To get an exhaustive list of such questions on goal setting and self-discovery, refer to my other article: 40 Journaling Prompts to Help You Self-Transform.